Monday, March 27, 2017

Read about a Golden Gate Bridge survivor

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A young man named Kevin Hines, who was eighteen years old, when suffering from mental illness, decided one morning that he was going to end his life. He tells us in this amazing video how he immediately regretted jumping.  The moment he catapulted himself over the barrier fences on the Golden Gate bridge, he knew he wanted to live.

Suicide is a horrendous problem for all the countries of the world.    Please see this video and pass it along to your friends and loved ones. Please go to: 
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Wednesday, March 22, 2017

Responsibility to the Sick in Spirit



Responsibility to those who are 
Sick in Spirit




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 Proverbs has a word to say about those who fail to comfort the depressed and brokenhearted. Proverbs 25:20 uses a Hebrew root word that sometimes denotes a Jewish bard or minstrel who would go from place to place telling folktales and singing fun songs:
Like one who takes off a garment on a cold day, or like vinegar on soda, is he who sings songs to a troubled heart.


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How easy it is for those who have not felt the dark gloom and bitter pain of depression to tell the depressed or brokenhearted that they can easily overcome it. Such empty advice is cold comfort that makes matters worse for the sufferer. 
  Does that mean that only those who have experienced depression can understand it well enough to help? A pastor said to me, half in jest, “I haven’t been depressed a day in my life...and it’s not my fault.” This pastor recognized that the one who has not experienced a particular sort of crisis will be less prepared to help others deal with it.

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 Those who have not experienced mental illness must take to heart Paul’s advice in Romans 12:15,
"Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep."
To show Christ’s love, it is sometimes needful simply to weep with those who are weeping rather than give superficial advice or try to be cheery. Job’s friends were good comforters as long as they sat in silence. It was when they opened their mouths to preach long, superficial sermons that they were used of Satan to drive Job into deeper despair.


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The first metaphor in Proverbs 25:20 has particular meaning to those of us who have lived in the northern latitudes, as we did for a while in Michigan in the United States. It can get so cold on January nights that when a heavy mitten falls off, the hand immediately begins to sting. What if someone rips the overcoat off of a fellow traveler on such a night because it seemed that they might feel better without the coat’s weight? The writer of Proverbs says that one who sings vacuous songs to a troubled heart is as unfeeling as one who exposes the person to the cold. Whatever the singer’s intention, there is no help because there is a lack of empathy and sympathy. The word “troubled” translates the Hebrew ra, which means affliction, calamity, misery, and adversity. Please be careful when giving advice to the hurting. Sometimes all they need is your love.
From Broken Minds Hope for Healing When You Feel Like You're Losing It.


 


In our book Broken Minds Hope for Healing When You Feel Like You're Losing It, (Kregel  Publications) Robyn and I talk about the depths of suffering that are experienced by those who are depressed and those who have other types of mental illness. The spirit of a man sustains his sickness but a wounded spirit who can bear, Proverbs 14:12

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Monday, March 20, 2017

"You are not supposed to die before your children, are you?"

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Purposeful Suffering, I have suffered greatly because of depressive episodes and the loss of a child. What has helped me the most I think, is that our Sovereign God, who chose me before the foundation of the world to be a new creature in Christ, uses trials and troubles of many different kinds to accomplish His purpose. This suffering  makes me more like the Son of God. The Suffering/Glory themes in the Bible are a study in and of themselves!

















We planned for four children but never dreamed that
 any of them would die before we did.

My wife, Robyn, and I talked about having four children before we were married. And by the grace of God we were able to do so. We never thought that we would lose Lindsay, our only daughter in a car accident.   Lindsay and her daughter Emily Hope were killed by a man in a car who never had no driver's license and who had a history of juvenile felonies. 

On September 11, 2001, he had been abusing drugs with his two friends. This man according to the Michigan State Forensic Office had enough heroin and cocaine in his blood to "put down six men." He hit Lindsay's car head on, we were right behind her and we saw it. She was eight months pregnant and was going to pick up her husband from his place of employment. She had left the prayer meeting  in a separate car. Our Pastor had called this special vigil  to pray for the nation. I can't begin to tell you the horror of that accident and of hearing the Chief of Police say, "I am sorry, she has passed." But God had a purpose for our suffering. The purpose would unfold in time.

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God is Sovereign in all that happens to His children.

 He was and always is in control of everything that happens to His beloved children. He does not effect evil but He is in control of all things. This truth is wonderfully seen in Isaiah 42:7, which states, I form the light and create darkness, I bring prosperity and create disaster; I, the LORD, do all these things.



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Our Lord Jesus encouraged and admonished John the Baptist when the prophet was having serious doubts about whether Christ was the Messiah. John was locked up in Herod's dark dungeon. Our Lord Jesus Christ said to him (by way of messengers that had come from John), "Go and report to John what you hear and see: the blind receive sight and the lame walk, the lepers are cleansed and the deaf hear, the dead are raised up, and the poor have the gospel preached to them; And blessed is he who does not take offense at Me." John the Baptist's death was sudden. All his doubts were gone as he entered Heaven. He was faithful until death, a true martyr. "Don't doubt in the dark that which you knew to be true in the light."
Charles Spurgeon



"But this is the lesson for you.   You only have to bear your burden for a certain length of time. The God who appointed you to bear it, also determined when you were to begin to bear it, and when you are to leave off bearing it. When God says you only to have ten troubles, the devil cannot make eleven of them; and you cannot reduce them to nine. Every particle of bitterness that is to go in your cup is dropped out with all the care of a qualified dispenser, and there will not be one drop more of bitterness in your cup, than the Lord knew was necessary to make the medicine just what it should be. I do delight in this truth, and I hope that you do also.” Spurgeon, Charles,ethereal library, public domain





Purposeful Suffering, I have suffered greatly because of depressive episodes and the loss of a child. What has helped me the most I think, is that our Sovereign God, who chose me before the foundation of the world to be a new creature in Christ, uses trials and troubles of many different kinds to accomplish His purpose. This suffering  makes me more like the Son of God. The Suffering/Glory themes in the Bible are a study in and of themselves!


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In our book Broken Minds Hope for Healing When You Feel Like You're Losing It, (Kregel Publications) Robyn and I talk about the depths of suffering that are experienced by those who are depressed and those who have other types of mental illness. The spirit of a man sustains his sickness but a wounded spirit who can bear, Proverbs 14:12

Friday, March 17, 2017

Is depression in reality; a Nervous Breakdown?

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  Yes, there is a difference between being stressed out and exhibiting signs of endogenous depression. It is sad that mentally ill people are continually told, “You just don’t know how to handle stress.” The stereotypical pictures of mental illness show a stressed-out housewife downing a handful of barbiturates  and eating bon-bons and of men and women in psychiatric hospitals shuffling around the hallways drooling. 
When I first became depressed in 1985, the “nervous breakdown” concept was still very much accepted by the public and by health professionals. The “biological theory” of mental illness was not nearly so widely acknowledged as it is today. 

The affected person is having a “nervous breakdown.” Social historians Megan Barke, Rebbecca Fribush, and Peter N. Stearns believe that the term nervous breakdown originated in the United States in about 1901.(Megan Barke, “Nervous Breakdown in 20th-Century American Culture,” Journal of Social History 33.3 (spring 2000): 565–84). 

The term nervous breakdown was introduced in a technical medical treatise and referred to a belief prevalent in the 1850s that the body was a machine and so subject to physical or mental collapse. Mental collapse came about when the stress on will and perseverance became intolerable. In the 1920s, it was not thought that the nerves literally snapped, but there was thought to be a real breakdown of the mind. Those involved in the 1920s discussion did not recognize a physical component to this breakdown. ( When I first became depressed in 1985, the “nervous breakdown” concept was still very much accepted by the public and by health professionals. The “biological theory” of mental illness was not nearly so widely acknowledged as it is today).



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This state of misunderstanding had social implications, for the images associated with a “nervous breakdown” were all negative. Barke, Fribush, and Stearns tell us that from the 1920s on it was strongly assumed that the breakdown victim was “responsible for his (or more commonly her) own fate.” The term took on even more negative connotations in the 1950s. It was said that everyone had a “breaking point.” Those who got depressed enough to be classified as mentally ill obviously had a low tolerance and a flawed personality. They could not take external stress because of an “underlying psychological weakness.”

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People raised under this level of prejudice will do anything to avoid going to a “shrink,” a “doctor for psychos.” They don’t want to be told, “You just don’t know how to handle stress.”Ironically, the idea of a “nervous breakdown” is somewhat accurate in describing what happens in an organic mental illness. Neurotransmitters in some sense do “break down” until the central nervous system malfunctions on a massive scale. But the baggage that attaches to the term remains an obstacle to treatment of mental illness and to acceptance of the mentally ill. 



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I was soon introduced to the misconception about my illness as I recovered from my initial bout of depression. That church in central Florida that had looked so promising was still without a pastor. I was feeling well enough to think seriously about renewing my candidacy. I called the deacon who headed the pulpit committee to ask about the possibility of still being considered. In his Southern drawl he responded, “Reverend, I understand that you got a case of the ‘nerves.’ . . .” It was quickly clear that the church would not be considering me any further. Looking back, I know that it was not God’s time for considering a return to pastoral ministry. Nevertheless, the deacon’s automatic prejudice against anyone with mental illness felt like a sword thrust (see Prov. 12:18).



This blog comes from the book Broken Minds Hope for Healing When You Feel Like You're Losing It.



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