Because of stigma, most
obituaries do not mention the word suicide. It seems to me the most common
label used in obituaries is "died unexpectedly," or “died suddenly" A very sad report came
out of the Saddleback Church this past weekend. Rick Warren is the well-known
pastor of this mega church in California. His son, Matthew, committed suicide
Friday.
Because of Pastor
Warren's fame (much of it has come after he wrote (A Purpose Driven Life), a
window has been opened that creates an opportunity for a national discussion
about suicide.
Suicide is responsible
for 49.1% of violent deaths worldwide. This is much more than both homicides
and war related deaths. It is a global problem.
I have written a number
of blogs on the subject of suicide. My own sister, Cyndi, committed suicide in
2006. She was a mother of three children who were sixteen, fourteen and twelve
years of age at the time. I will be discussing the
very important topic suicide in blogs during the next week.
Robyn and I are co-authors of a book called, Broken Minds Hope for Healing When You Feel Like You're Losing It. The biggest chapter is on suicide. It is available both in Kindle and paper back.
It is published by Kregel Publications of Grand Rapids, MI, USA. For reviews and to purchase, please go to http://www.amazon.com/Broken-Minds-Healing-Youre-Losing/dp/0825421187
We thank him for his contribution and we
continue to pray for the Warrens and this epidemic of suicide.
Dr. Randy Isaac
Bimodal impact
Bible
verses may not always have the impact we intend. Seed that falls on one type of
soil will get a different response than seed on another type of soil. We must
be careful how we apply verses.
I’ve
learned the hard way that a Bible verse that means one thing to me will have an
entirely different impact on someone with bipolar disorder. For an example,
consider the different connotations that one particular verse might have. I
Corinthians 10:13 is frequently quoted by many Christians. The NIV renders it
this way: “No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind.
And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear.
But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure
it.” The Greek word for “temptation” or “tempted” can also mean “tested” but
often informal use just substitutes “given” as in “you will not be given
anything beyond what you can bear,” implicitly broadening the meaning far
beyond either temptation or testing.
While
this verse serves as encouragement to most people who are comforted by the
thought that God limits the extent of suffering to something short of being
intolerable, others may not see it that way. Don’t be surprised if someone with
depression or other mental illness responds in one or more of these ways.
“That
shows I’m a failure.” I’m already beyond
the point of enduring the mental anguish. It just shows that I’m such a failure
I can’t even endure what the Bible says I can.
“God
is against me.” Instead of providing a
safety net to keep me from getting more than I can bear, He is pushing me to
see if I really can endure it. I’m alone in this fight against God.
“I
don’t need to take my meds or get therapy.”
If God won’t let my problems get worse than I can bear, why bother getting
treatment? It won’t become intolerable no matter what I do or don’t do.
“I’ll
die anyway.” Being able to “endure it”
doesn’t mean I won’t die. Almost all the apostles were martyrs and surely this
verse applied to them. This is no guarantee I’ll survive.
“Praise
God and die.” If failing to endure means
to follow Job’s wife’s advice and “Curse God and die,” why don’t I just “Praise
God and die” to relieve all this anguish, make it easier on my friends and
family, and see my Maker sooner to find out what this anguish was all about.
“I
am all alone.” Everyone else seems to
endure their temptation with ease and walk around with a smile on their face. I
alone am singled out to be stretched to the limit.
“This
doesn’t apply to me.” Who says that
“temptation” or “testing” relates to mental illness? Aren’t depression and
other mental illnesses due to genetic and biochemical imbalances? Would you
quote this verse to someone struggling with terminal cancer?
Seeing
the world through the black-tinted glasses of someone tormented with mental
illness, a verse that is comforting to so many people may come across as harsh
and taunting. Well-trained counselors are familiar with this response and know
how to gauge a person’s reaction. Poorly-trained counselors and well-meaning
friends and family often toss out biblical quotes such as these and are puzzled
by the reaction. What someone afflicted with mental illness needs most of all
is not a litany of Bible verses but professional help and empathetic,
unconditional love from family, friends, and the church.
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