Responsibility
to those who are
Sick in Spirit
Proverbs has a word to say about those who fail to comfort
the depressed and brokenhearted. Proverbs 25:20 uses a Hebrew root word that
sometimes denotes a Jewish bard or minstrel who would go from place to place
telling folktales and singing fun songs:
How easy it is for those who have not felt the dark gloom and
bitter pain of depression to tell the depressed or brokenhearted that they can
easily overcome it. Such empty advice is cold comfort that makes matters worse for
the sufferer.
Does that mean that only those who have experienced
depression can understand it well enough to help? A pastor said to me, half in
jest, “I haven’t been depressed a day in my life...and it’s not my fault.” This
pastor recognized that the one who has not experienced a particular sort of
crisis will be less prepared to help others deal with it.
Those who have not
experienced mental illness must take to heart Paul’s advice in Romans 12:15,
"Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep."
To show
Christ’s love, it is sometimes needful simply to weep with those who are
weeping rather than give superficial advice or try to be cheery. Job’s
friends were good comforters as long as they sat in silence. It was when they
opened their mouths to preach long, superficial sermons that they were used of
Satan to drive Job into deeper despair.
The first metaphor in Proverbs 25:20 has particular meaning to
those of us who have lived in the northern latitudes, as we did for a while in Michigan in
the United States. It can get so cold on January nights that when a heavy
mitten falls off, the hand immediately begins to sting. What if someone rips the
overcoat off of a fellow traveler on such a night because it seemed that they
might feel better without the coat’s weight? The writer of Proverbs says that
one who sings vacuous songs to a troubled heart is as unfeeling as one who
exposes the person to the cold. Whatever the singer’s intention, there is no
help because there is a lack of empathy and sympathy. The word “troubled”
translates the Hebrew ra, which means affliction, calamity, misery, and
adversity. Please be careful when giving advice to the hurting. Sometimes all they need is your love.
From Broken Minds Hope for Healing When You Feel Like You're Losing It.
In our book Broken Minds Hope for
Healing When You Feel Like You're Losing It, (Kregel Publications) Robyn
and I talk about the depths of suffering that are experienced by those
who are depressed and those who have other types of mental illness. The
spirit of a man sustains his sickness but a wounded spirit who can bear,
Proverbs 14:12
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